tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post3948143244606648577..comments2023-11-02T08:26:17.556-07:00Comments on Nonlinear Girl: An Update, Mostly to Torture Myselfnonlineargirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05414675024101618604noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-21041947722148753892008-09-23T10:18:00.000-07:002008-09-23T10:18:00.000-07:00Yes, I found myself wanting to ask people what it ...Yes, I found myself wanting to ask people what it was like to grow up an 'only' as well, and had to fight the urge to do so. <BR/><BR/>I didn't know you were on a 17 day protocol, ooof. That's a helluvah lot of hormones to endure.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02864909952004392637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-29941988344996837372008-09-19T07:31:00.000-07:002008-09-19T07:31:00.000-07:00oh, nora. i'm thinking about you, and wishing, to...oh, nora. i'm thinking about you, and wishing, too.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-7686113223211139492008-09-18T19:52:00.000-07:002008-09-18T19:52:00.000-07:00You must dezug! The word verification-bots demand...You must dezug! The word verification-bots demand it. Dezug, I tell you, it's never too late!p-manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04197167912580594944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-42070701863028175162008-09-18T17:46:00.000-07:002008-09-18T17:46:00.000-07:00You don't have to hope... we'll hope for you.You don't have to hope... we'll hope for you.Kadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15499798447518286266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-37016024185718878632008-09-18T14:03:00.000-07:002008-09-18T14:03:00.000-07:00i think I'm from a family of 5 only children. ...i think I'm from a family of 5 only children. One adopted to another family. One my step mother's, around my age but lived with her father mostly, I lived with my mom, and then my parents, both remarried, had babies when I was 16 & 17. I don't think it's a terrible fate at all for the kids. I love my time to myself, always have. I'm patient and self entertaining, and I'd rather be that way than to require company. And I think the younger ones are quite happy to have the parents all to themselves. Siblings are fine, but so is growing up without them. No harm done.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563840922463701366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-68668312771604033392008-09-18T13:51:00.000-07:002008-09-18T13:51:00.000-07:00In my experience expecting the worst never makes i...In my experience expecting the worst never makes it any easier. Hence, the real good of hope, not absurd optimism, they're different. <BR/><BR/>And, also, the only really bad thing about being an only child is not really learning how to take a tease, not a life-shattering problem. <BR/><BR/>Love, hope, and prayers to you.Chloe Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09225520602831360748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-17688086156143939832008-09-18T12:25:00.000-07:002008-09-18T12:25:00.000-07:00Ack! Two different clinics I went to and neither ...Ack! Two different clinics I went to and neither one required an enema! Ack.<BR/><BR/>Good luck. Oh and some baby dust too.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-12713763538495373242008-09-18T11:43:00.000-07:002008-09-18T11:43:00.000-07:00It only takes one. It only takes one.It only takes one. It only takes one.idiothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09359115175213964128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-62523812102359111142008-09-18T11:07:00.000-07:002008-09-18T11:07:00.000-07:00Good luck. Sending all happy thoughts.Good luck. Sending all happy thoughts.Mayberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342826784650208124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-42052690606065654712008-09-18T11:02:00.000-07:002008-09-18T11:02:00.000-07:00i'm not sure of anything except that time will pas...i'm not sure of anything except that time will pass and something will happen.<BR/><BR/>the cruel mercy of life.<BR/><BR/>may you be ready for it.kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02620514721006776847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-33631785105995279782008-09-18T10:22:00.000-07:002008-09-18T10:22:00.000-07:00Thanks Stute Fish, that is exactly what I needed r...Thanks Stute Fish, that is exactly what I needed right now.nonlineargirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05414675024101618604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-12901817468067908552008-09-18T09:53:00.000-07:002008-09-18T09:53:00.000-07:00I'm more or less an only child, my brother having ...I'm more or less an only child, my brother having been born when I was 14, and having left the house only a few years later. I must say, I don't think it makes a great deal of difference, in the wash, though individual sibling relationships can be very rich.<BR/><BR/>http://thesituationist.wordpress.com/2007/08/19/only-child-syndrome-or-adavantage/- "“There have been hundreds and hundreds of research studies that show that only children are no different from their peers.”"<BR/><BR/>I know people who can't stand their siblings, and people who are great close friends with them, and (many) people who are mostly indifferent. And I know generous, unselfish, empathetic only children and selfish, grasping, myopic ones. George W. Bush has four siblings. Obama has no full siblings and was raised as an only. <BR/><BR/>For myself, I loved the full attention of my parents, and I love that they had the time to have full lives outside the family that they could model for me and include me in. As you know, I myself would be happy with an only, though that's under negotiation. It's not bad for a child. I never felt like anything was missing. And while there are certainly things I didn't get, being an only child (my family says we had "two only children" as my brother and I are effectively two generations apart), there were compensations in the things that I did. <BR/><BR/>Um, not that you asked. But since you mentioned it. I don't expect that this will ameliorate your longing at all, but if you end up in a situation where you need to find a peaceful place about an only, perhaps it could help.The Stute Fishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06224464821160774526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-84303129290244693352008-09-18T09:50:00.000-07:002008-09-18T09:50:00.000-07:00Rebecca - first child by IVF (the first try at it)...Rebecca - first child by IVF (the first try at it). Can't simultaneously hope and prepare for loss, but still I try.nonlineargirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05414675024101618604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-91479001510696583692008-09-18T09:25:00.000-07:002008-09-18T09:25:00.000-07:00Wishing you the very best of luck. I really hope t...Wishing you the very best of luck. I really hope this is it for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-24871503478249373192008-09-18T07:47:00.000-07:002008-09-18T07:47:00.000-07:00Reading your posts is such an eye opener for me. I...Reading your posts is such an eye opener for me. I'll be thinking of you and wishing the universe gives you lots of luck.ms bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06997925420763913039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-34342059817476817112008-09-18T07:07:00.000-07:002008-09-18T07:07:00.000-07:00Ah, yes. The self-torture musings. I a very famili...Ah, yes. The self-torture musings. I a very familiar with this phenomenom. Thinking of you lots and wishing hard for you.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14533311678025418958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21634138.post-4749678644920796102008-09-18T06:50:00.000-07:002008-09-18T06:50:00.000-07:00I've decided that hope is evil. You don't want to...I've decided that hope is evil. You don't want to have it because you know if you do you'll only be more upset later when something goes wrong and yet, it's always there. No matter how hard you try to push it away it hovers over you and it's tendrils invade your mind. Hope is what causes us to torture ourselves with IVF after IVF and yet, if it didn't exist we wouldn't even try and if you don't try it will never work. *sigh* Did you have your first child via IVF?Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16454515801817880703noreply@blogger.com